Obviously I am not a Father, nor will I ever be one, however, I do know what it feels like to have an amazing Dad! Since Father’s Day is just around the corner, how could I not write about two of the most important men in my life. One who has been a Father for 30 years, and the other who will be embarking on the journey of fatherhood in just a matter of months.
To even begin writing about how much my Dad means to me is nearly impossible. It’s honestly hard to put it into words. Not to sound biased but my Dad is the best! There isn’t a better Dad out there and I feel so blessed that God chose YOU to be my Dad.
I was adopted as a baby. I know my birth mother and have been blessed to have a relationship not only with her but her family as well. I could find out who my birth father is if I wanted to, but the truth is I don’t need to, because Dad you have always been and always will be all the Dad that I need in this life!
My Dad has always been there for me, through the highs and lows. He has been my teacher, my cheerleader, my counsellor, my comforter, my friend, and so much more. As a little girl I looked up to my dad so much, I didn’t want to do anything to disappoint either of my parents, but especially my Dad. My Dad is so knowledgeable, and worked so hard for our family.
My dad was the pastor of the church I grew up in. One of my favourite memories as a child with my Dad is when we would be out together and he would have to stop by the hospital just to make sure there was no one he had to see. Dad never just checked on people from our church, but also people from the small community he grew up in, and family friends. This is going to sound weird, and my Dad probably doesn’t even know this, but I secretly loved doing this with him. He had special parking (with the Doctors) and a special name badge to let him in and out of the parking lot- which of course made me think my Dad was extra cool! We would go into the little Pastoral Care area where there was a computer where Dad would check in to see if anyone was listed under his name or the name of our church. Sometimes there wasn’t anyone to see, and we would leave, sometimes there was someone he needed to see and I got to see my Dad do God’s work at first hand. I wouldn’t always go in the patients room with him- it obviously depended on the situation, and how well I knew them- but I could always hear him. He was so calm and soothing, and would always start by just the right amount of small talk. Then he would read some scripture, and to end the visit he prayed with them. To some of you this may sound like a silly memory, but through this my Dad taught me some of the most valuable life lessons. How to be compassionate, how to care for others, how it is so important to draw close to God in the most difficult times, and how the smallest things- like taking the time to visit someone is the hospital- means so much to people.
Without my Dad’s influence I would not be the person I am today. Thank you Dad for all you have shown me and taught me over the years, even the smallest things don’t go unnoticed. I can’t wait to see you jump into your new role as Grampie and look forward to your Grandchildren learning about what an incredible man you are!
When Joel and I got married in 2012 I would have started our family right away, although looking back I definitely would not have been ready to be a mom at that time, but what did I know! Joel is three years younger than me, was not established in a career, and was still finishing University. Obviously starting a family was something we had talked about, and through this conversation was the first time I realized how great of a Dad my Husband is going to be. I believe I had what one would call “baby fever” and was not seeing our life at the time realistically. Joel said he thought it was important for him to be established in a career, plus we needed time to just be married and be together- getting married is an adjustment enough! He was 100% right. I wouldn’t trade the almost five years we have had together just being married, we have both done a lot of maturing, and growing. We have faced some big challenges and changes together which have all made us stronger as a couple. Looking back at it, we will now be better parents for our children because we waited, because we have become even stronger together, and an even better team.
Since we moved to Manitoba we have met many friends who have young families of their own. Once we started getting to know our friends and their children more Joel started talking about having our own children, it was a clear sign that he was ready! The best thing that I could have done was to be patient and wait for Joel to be ready instead of pressuring him into starting a family just because I wanted to. I knew it was important for him to feel ready and so I was patient with him- maybe not all the time, but I did my best! Another reason I know Joel is going to be an amazing dad is because- ready or not- he is ready! This is something that we both wanted.
Joel said from the beginning we were having twins, I told him he was crazy. So needless to say when we found out we were having twins he was beyond thrilled and thought it was the best thing ever- more about this in a later blog post; I promise! Joel already has the excitement of a new father- seeing the babies in the ultrasound he was amazed and thought it was so cool- which it is! We went into Carter’s for the first time together and his eyes literally lit up like it was Christmas morning! You could just tell he was taking it all in and just seeing all the possibilities of what our children could wear! Joel is very into “fashion” he’s up on the latest trends and cares about the trends are- so our children will clearly be dressed to the nines! Joel already wants what is best and safest for our babies, the research he has been doing on car seats, and strollers, and cribs. These babies have to have the best, and the ratings having to be good on the product or it’s no go!
I can’t wait to see this man in action! To see him hold his children for the first time, watch him (while probably laughing my head off) change his first diaper, to see him make his children laugh for the first time, and to hear just how much he loves these babies! As much as we aren’t ready for this big change, we are so ready and can’t wait!
So all you Dad’s and future Dad’s out there- Happy Father’s Day! I hope you all have a wonderful day on Sunday, and remember even the smallest things that you don’t think matter- well they matter to someone!
P.S. Hormonal pregnant women should not write sentimental posts like this…